“Ever stood in front of the mirror and someone in your head said, ‘You’re not enough’? Let’s change that dialogue.”
Tom often avoids speaking up in meetings, convinced his suggestions aren’t as good as others’. He’s competent, knowledgeable… but flatters small and shrinks slightly in spotlight moments. It’s not lack of ability—it’s self-belief that’s missing.
Confidence doesn’t mean never feeling unsure—it means choosing to act, despite that doubt.
Ways to nurture confidence:
- List small wins. Did you help a colleague? Complete a tricky task? Noticed a colleague was struggling and quietly supported them? These count. Making them visible (even to just yourself) shifts your inner narrative.
- Use empowering language. Replace “I can’t handle that” with “I’m learning how to handle that.” That slight shift acknowledges possibility and growth.
Act ‘as if’. Stand tall, breathe evenly, speak clearly—bounce ideas into the room—even when it’s unfamiliar. Your body language and tone can shape your inner state. - Set micro-challenges. Tom might aim to share one idea in his next meeting—just one. It might feel small, but each time he speaks up, he collects evidence that he can—and deserves to—be heard.
Hibiscus Therapy speaks directly to “Confidence & Self-Esteem Building,” offering tailored hypnotherapy sessions to help you clarify goals, overcome emotional blocks, and unlock inner strength and self-belief. hibiscustherapy.com
Here’s how hypnotherapy might assist:
- Planting positive self-images. While in a relaxed state, you might be guided to view yourself in moments of assuredness—helping your unconscious accept that version of you as true.
- Letting go of harsh self-criticism. Hypnotherapy can help gently release internal messages that say “not enough,” replacing them with kind, realistic affirmations like “I am enough as I am, growing each day.”
- Anchoring confidence. Together, you might discover a simple physical or mental cue (like touching a finger) that, in moments of wavering, can bring you back to that calm, confident place.
Confidence isn’t arrogant—it’s an inner quiet that says, “I belong here, I have value.” You already have the building blocks. With awareness, small actions, and gentle reinforcement, your self-esteem can flourish. If you’d like a caring guide to walk that path with you, Hibiscus Therapy offers a supportive, personalised approach every step of the way.
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